What does it mean to ‘have’ friends?

… Understanding and accepting some human beings

… Being understood and accepted by some human beings.

Only then can it be said you belong to each other.

The real trick is to build the traits you’re asking others to believe you have.

The only way to get sustainable attention in this world is to earn it.

How to make a difference? Be in control. 
Does control include getting others, including family, gang, government, and God, to make things better for you?
No. You can only be in control of yourself.
Self-help is the conscious reasoning part of the “self”, able to change your actions, your words, other aspects of your personality.
It is self-improvement by aware decision making.

Your thoughts, your actions.
That’s it.